40 Pieces of Advice I Wish I Could Have Given My Younger Self


  1. You are replaceable at work but you are not replaceable to your family.
  2. Get a passport. Travel abroad and see as much of the world as you can. Travel somewhere solo at least once. Do that semester or summer abroad that you want to.
  3. There is someone, somewhere who thinks you’re the greatest person they’ve ever met.
  4. Avoid people who don’t keep their promises.
  5. Take control of your finances early. Stay out of credit card debt. Never spend more money than you make. Save at least 10% of your income. It’s never too early to start investing in a retirement account.
  6. The above being said, allow yourself to enjoy your money a bit. Buy that handbag you want or go to that expensive restaurant you’ve always wanted to try, without feeling guilty.
  7. Take care of your skin. Use SPF religiously. Invest in a good dermatologist.
  8. Floss. Even so, you’ll still have anxiety dreams about your teeth falling out but, in reality, your teeth and gums will be in perfect health! However, don’t put off getting braces on your lower teeth.
  9. Go out of your way to stay in touch with old friends. Write letters. Send cards. Organize bi-coastal girls’ weekends.
  10. Put the camera down occasionally and just take in the scenery. Your brain is also a great photographer. However, when you do take vacation pics, make sure you are in them. When you look back, you don’t want to just see a postcard pic of a monument; you’ll want to see yourself there.
  11. Donate your time and your money to causes you believe in.
  12. Listen more than you speak.
  13. Don’t watch too much TV. It’s much more fun to experience life firsthand.
  14. Don’t always be on a diet. Enjoy food but avoid processed food as much as you can. Occasionally eat something you’ve never tried before.
  15. You’ll regret the things you didn’t do, the opportunities you didn’t take, much more than silly mistakes you’ve made.
  16. Don’t be jealous of other people’s lives “online” – you’re definitely not seeing the whole picture on their Facebook & Instagram accounts.
  17. Be loyal and don’t gossip.
  18. Don’t be afraid to ask for exactly what you want.
  19. Do something that scares and challenges you every once in a while
  20. Every few years, pick a room in your house, take everything out of it, and decide what stays, what gets thrown out and what gets donated. It’s a consistent way to declutter your life.
  21. Find a career mentor, and then mentor others.
  22. Learn how to drink in social situations without getting drunk. Have a go-to drink to order like a boss. Eat beforehand. Mix in water. Hangovers only get worse as you get older, so avoid them completely. But nobody really admires the person who gets tipsy after one glass of chardonnay or gets blasted at the office party.
  23. Try the best you can to live in the present moment. Don’t romanticize your past or overly anticipate your future while ignoring what’s happening in your life right now.
  24. Don’t use transportation if you can walk or bike somewhere instead.
  25. If you want a happy marriage, marry a happy person. (You will, so stop stressing about meeting him. He’s going to show up for you and, spoiler alert: he’s the last person you’d suspect right now.) Do not think you can change an unhappy person into a happy one; you can’t. You CAN NOT.
  26. Don’t put off having kids too long.
  27. You’re probably never going to be famous, and that’s perfectly fine.
  28. Treat everyone with patience and kindness, especially store clerks and servers.
  29. Adversity breeds character but don’t reach for a drink or a Xanax every time the going gets rough. If you need help coping, seek it out. But don’t overburden your friends or family with your problems; leave that to the professionals.
  30. If you start something, finish it. Be that person who follows through with everything.
  31. Find your spirituality. Even if the answer winds up being “none,” at least that’s your authentic choice.
  32. Celebrate your birthday in style each year.
  33. Beautiful experiences are going to mean more to you than beautiful things.
  34. Don’t ever take your loved ones for granted.
  35. Life gets easier. Then it doesn’t. Then it does. Then it doesn’t. Then it does. Just keep moving forward.
  36. Arrogance is not the same as confidence. Arrogance usually masks insecurity. True confidence is inspiring to be around.
  37. You’ll never have everything all figured out.
  38. There’s no need to be so self-conscious in social situations. Most people are already too wrapped up in what other people think of them to be paying too much attention to you.
  39. At work, never go to your boss with a problem until you’ve figured out a possible solution.
  40. Be careful with your words – whether spoken, or written. Never write anything in an email or on social media that you wouldn’t be comfortable seeing on the front page of a newspaper. Never email someone back when you are in the heat of your anger. As Mom used to say, once the toothpaste is out of the tube, it’s hard to put it back in.

Readers, share with me the best piece of advice YOU ever received!


  • By: Cloverhill
  • On: May 11, 2017
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